Our Missing Piece: A Mum’s Story of Swaying for Her Daughter

I recently met with a customer who bought the Sway natural Girl plan and successfully swayed for a girl. We caught up at a lovely little café near Bondi, where I had the pleasure of meeting her beautiful daughter and getting to know her story a little better. Over coffee, she shared her experience of navigating the gender swaying process - what she found challenging, what helped her most, and the advice she would give to others considering the journey.

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When did you first start dreaming of having a girl?

After having two boys, I started to feel quite strongly about wanting a daughter as well. I loved my boys dearly, but I had this sense of wanting to balance the family a little. Perhaps also not wanting to be completely outnumbered! It just felt like having a girl would bring a bit of equilibrium to our family.

How did you start researching gender swaying? What was that experience like?

At first I ended up on a lot of the forums that talk about gender swaying. There is so much information out there, but a lot of it is quite contradictory and often not based on any real science.

One forum would swear by one method, another would say the exact opposite, and it was all quite overwhelming. To be honest, I found it frustrating because it didn’t give me much confidence that I was actually doing the right things.

What really helped was when I started finding resources that referenced actual studies and scientific literature. Being able to look at the research myself, even though the studies are not always perfect, gave me much more confidence than just reading opinions on forums. That was something I found particularly helpful about the information on Sway natural, as it pulled together the research in a much clearer way.

What resources did you use and what did you find challenging?

Early on I briefly spoke with a naturopath who had some experience with gender swaying, mainly because the process can feel quite isolating when you are trying to figure everything out on your own. It was helpful to talk through the general approach. But what really helped me most was having clear, structured information to follow. The guidance on Sway natural made it much easier to understand what actually mattered and how to apply it in practice.

Without a doubt, the most challenging part is the diet. It is not for the faint-hearted. I was very strict with it because I knew this would likely be our last child and I wanted to give it my best shot.

For about two to three months I was extremely careful with everything I ate. It was completely different from how I ate when I conceived my boys. I ate a lot of very plain food—pasta, yoghurt, milk and vegetables without sauces - and avoided fruit. Even now I still feel slightly nauseous thinking about all the yoghurt!

The information and food guidance on Sway natural helped me make the diet much more targeted. It also gave me more ideas for what I could eat, which made the whole process a lot more enjoyable and tasty than it might otherwise have been. Being able to track my mineral intake also alleviated some of the anxiety and gave me confidence that I was on the right track.

Eating out was also difficult because restaurant food is usually very high in sodium, so I mostly stayed home where I could control exactly what I was eating.

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Did you ever consider IVF for gender selection?

Of course it crossed my mind. It’s something you see discussed a lot online. But when it came down to it, I preferred to try naturally if I could.

I believed the natural methods could improve the odds, so I decided to give it everything I had and then let the chips fall where they may. With two children already, the logistics of IVF also felt quite complicated.

What methods did you follow?

The main focus for me was the diet. I was extremely strict with it. I also followed timing and was very aware of my cycle, but the biggest effort really went into maintaining the diet and adjusting mineral intake. I also did blood tests to see how my mineral levels were changing over time, which helped confirm that the diet adjustments were moving things in the right direction.

My husband also participated with things like hot baths and gym sessions, and we followed the recommended intercourse techniques such as shallow penetration.

Did your family and friends know you were swaying?

No, I kept it to myself.

I knew that if we had another boy I would love him just as much, and I didn’t want the pressure from other people hoping for a girl. I also didn’t want anyone to think that having another boy would somehow be disappointing.

When did you find out you were having a girl?

Not until around 20 weeks. Life was busy and I was also a little nervous to check too early.

When I finally found out, I was absolutely over the moon. It just felt like the family was complete. Of course a third boy would have been wonderful too, but having a daughter did feel like the missing piece of the puzzle.

How did your boys react to having a little sister?

They were incredibly excited. They really loved the idea of having a little sister rather than another brother.

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What advice would you give to someone considering gender swaying?

The most important thing is to be emotionally prepared for either outcome. These methods can improve the odds, but they are never a guarantee.

Personally, I believe it works - it worked for me - but you have to be comfortable with the possibility that you might still have the opposite gender. If you feel you would be deeply disappointed, it’s important to think carefully about whether it’s the right approach for you.

If someone decides to try it, what would your biggest tip be?

Commit to it properly.

For me it was a few months of being very disciplined with the diet and lifestyle. It wasn’t easy, but in the grand scheme of life it was a relatively short period of time.

If you decide to do it, give it your best shot.

Did the process ever feel stressful?

Yes, definitely. There is a lot of information to process and you constantly wonder whether you are doing everything correctly.

You’re checking every ingredient, making sure the sodium isn’t too high, and worrying whether you’ve slipped up somewhere. It definitely adds another layer of anxiety when you are already trying to conceive.

How does it feel now being a mum to a daughter?

Honestly, it doesn’t feel very different from being a mum to my boys. I love all my children equally.

Having a daughter is lovely of course - there are pink clothes and little fun things - but the love you feel for your children isn’t about gender. I don’t think my life would have been worse if I had three boys.

Society sometimes assumes boys and girls will be very different, but I don’t really see it that way. My boys already have very different personalities. One of them is more kind, caring and cuddly than any girl I know. Children are individuals first. Gender doesn’t define who they become.

But knowing there are natural ways to gently influence the odds is something I’m really grateful I discovered.

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